Singer Ben Says She Decided to Divorce 6 Months After Giving Birth, After 5 Years of Disputes With Her Husband Repeatedly Shattered Trust—and She Confessed With Tears

Singer Ben (BEN), who has been loved for her signature explosive vocal power and her emotional expressiveness, tearfully recounted the long-running conflicts she faced during her marriage to her ex-husband and the heartbreaking story of how she had no choice but to decide on divorce right after giving birth.

■ “I Carried It for 5 Years in My Life”… A Sense of Betrayal That Repeated Even After the Child Arrived

On the 24th, in the 40th episode of the web entertainment corner “Knowing, My Sister-in-Law” on the YouTube channel “Hyeonsu is K.Will,” singer Ben appeared as a guest and openly confessed the inside story of the divorce process that she had not previously shared with the public.

In the video that day, Ben said, “I feel like I went through every kind of thing while living my life. And somehow, my personality changed naturally through it.” She then hinted that, including the dating period, she had buried and endured deep conflicts throughout her marriage, saying, “In practice, I lived carrying that person (my ex-husband) for five years.”

Ben recalled, “Since it wasn’t a romantic relationship, I had to be very careful about (sorting things out). I endured it, and then I got angry and tried all kinds of efforts. Then a child was born.” She said that when she saw the child who arrived like a miracle during a time that was so difficult, she promised herself that happiness would follow, thinking, “This kid came to save me.” But the tragedy did not stop. Ben said, “Even in that moment, something happened. Even in that moment, feelings like betrayal came back, and it was too hard to handle,” and her voice broke with emotion, making viewers feel for her.

■ Facing the Future Head-On After Hesitation… A Decision to Stand Alone After Overcoming Her Father’s Opposition

In the period leading up to the split only 6 months after childbirth, Ben’s mind was filled with countless doubts and hesitations, including “Was it really the right choice?” and “Should we not break up?” But what held her in place was a cold, clear-eyed look at the future.

Ben said, “I tried to look ahead. I pictured what my life would be like three years from now, when my daughter turns six, and I thought that if I didn’t get divorced, I would still be having the same kind of worries and suffering then. I decided that it wasn’t worth it and that I should settle it sooner,” explaining the reason for her decision.

She added that she is the kind of person who puts everything into love once she falls for it, so even though the many things that broke trust between her and her ex-husband kept repeating, the fact that her feelings remained made the process of breaking up even more unbearably difficult. Still, she said firmly, “Marriage is never something you can live just on one person’s heart. I made a huge decision with the idea that if I have to live fully and happily, then my child will live too.” She also stated decisively that she has no regrets about that choice now.

During this process, she also confessed about conflicts within her family. Ben mentioned her conservative-minded father-in-law, who had strongly opposed the divorce, saying, “Everyone just endures like that.” She then said, “I’m still so sorry to my father, but the road I have to live from here is wide open—so it was an unavoidable choice,” and even fought back tears.

■ “I Said I’d Have an Easy Delivery and Came Back as a Single Mom”… I Was Terrified of People’s Reactions”

Given the nature of her job as an entertainer, where she has to face public evaluation, her return as a “single mom” was pure fear. Ben said, “What I feared most was greeting the public with ‘I’ll deliver safely and come back,’ leaving, and then divorcing and returning.” She added, “I was so scared of how people would look at me and what they would say that my body was shaking. I was afraid that when I went to have a baby and came back as a single mom, my own 모습 would be consumed as something too ridiculous.”

Even so, when asked why she decided to appear on divorce-focused entertainment programs such as “I’m Just Going to Be Alone Now”, she said, “The fact that I’m a single mom doesn’t change, and it wasn’t because of anything I did wrong. I thought it was right for me, with my own mouth, to directly spell out and show that it was a proud choice I needed in order to live better.” She displayed a stronger, more grounded side as a mother.

Ben, who filed for marriage in 2020 and held a formal wedding ceremony in 2021, gave birth to her daughter the following year. But 3 years after getting married, in 2024, her marriage ultimately ended in divorce. At the time, Ben’s agency clearly stated in an official position, “We decided to divorce due to reasons attributable to the husband’s side,” and previously said that an agreement had been reached that the custody rights for their daughter would belong to Ben, the mother.